About Lady Lamplighter

My journey as a death doula began in one of the most painful chapters of my life — the death of my stepdad, Ken. I walked with him through his final weeks, carrying both deep love and deep regret. His strength, humor, and tenderness remain in my heart, but so do the moments of chaos and unmet needs.

During that time, I witnessed how vulnerable dying can be when support systems break down. There was confusion, fear, and a lack of guidance when what Ken needed most was peace, comfort, and dignity. I often felt helpless, wishing someone could step in to hold space, explain what was happening, and protect both him and me from unnecessary suffering.

That experience changed me. It revealed not only the gaps in how our culture approaches death, but also the deep need for compassionate presence at the bedside. It lit a lantern inside me — a calling to become a death doula.

Today, as Lady Lamplighter, I walk alongside individuals and families during end-of-life transitions. My role is to offer education, comfort, and presence so that no one has to feel as alone, confused, or unsupported as Ken and I once did. I believe death can be approached with intention, gentleness, clarity, and even beauty and levity — and it is my purpose to help light the way.